spirituality

Nostalgia Is Not Escape: A Spiritual Practice of Remembering

Vintage record player, handwritten letters, plants, and books on a wooden desk
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I have a small problem with the past: it keeps showing up in the present wearing my old clothes. A song from high school. The smell of rice cooking when everyone was still home. My father’s laugh before I understood how much I would miss it.

We call this nostalgia. For a long time, the word sounded like a warning label—sentimental, backward-looking, perhaps one step away from buying a decorative sign that says Good Vibes Only. But nostalgia can be more than an escape hatch. Used honestly, it can become a small spiritual practice: remembering where we have been so we can notice where we are.

That does not mean pretending the past was perfect. Nostalgia is not a courtroom in which every old year gets acquitted. It is closer to an examen of memory. We look back with affection and a little ache, asking: Who was there? What did I receive? What did I become?

Psychologists define nostalgia as “a sentimental longing for one’s past,” and the research is more interesting than the greeting-card version. In six experiments, researchers found that nostalgia can strengthen social connectedness—a sense of belonging and acceptance—and, through that connection, support self-continuity: the feeling that the person I was and the person I am are not complete strangers.

Another series of five studies, involving 1,074 participants, linked nostalgia with a stronger connection among past, present, and future selves. The authors also tested the relationship while accounting for rumination, which is different. Rumination circles the wound. Nostalgia, at its best, tells the larger story. The study’s findings suggest that remembering can help us build a coherent narrative rather than simply replay distress.

Here is the spiritual distinction I find useful: escape asks memory to remove me from today; remembrance asks memory to return me to today with deeper roots.

When I play an old song, I am not required to move back into 1987. Thank goodness. The hair alone would be an act of penance. I can let the song remind me of friendships, risks, and ordinary mercies. I can notice what endured. I can grieve what did not. I can send a message to someone who helped make that chapter good.

That is why nostalgia can be communal rather than merely private. The American Psychological Association has noted that nostalgic memories often include the presence and support of family or friends, helping people feel connected across distance and loss. The point is not to worship the past. It is to receive its witnesses.

So, what happened? We remembered. What did it mean? The memory showed us that our lives are made of relationships, not just milestones. What can we carry forward? Perhaps one honest memory, held gently, then turned into gratitude or a phone call.

Try it tonight: choose one memory that still feels warm. Ask what it gave you, who shared it, and what it asks of you now. Then come back to the room you are in. Nostalgia should not be a door that locks behind us. It can be a window—open just long enough to let some light reach the present.

The Purple Thread: Prince, Faith, and the Funk of the 1980s

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The Prompt Bank gave me a good one today: “Prince, faith, and funk: the spiritual undercurrent in 80s pop.” Which is a little like asking where the electricity is in a lightning storm. Still, let’s look.

Prince’s public image was all purple fog, guitar heroics, lace, and enough double meanings to keep a seminary ethics class busy until supper. But underneath the spectacle was a serious religious imagination. He was raised Seventh-day Adventist and later became a Jehovah’s Witness. As Religion News Service notes, faith was not a side room in his work; across nearly four decades, it kept wandering onto the main stage.

Take “I Would Die 4 U,” from Purple Rain (1984). It can play as a love song, but the lyrics also borrow the language of messiah, dove, conscience, forgiveness, and belief. That ambiguity is the point. Prince was not handing us a tidy tract with a guitar solo attached. He was letting desire and devotion argue in public, sometimes in the same verse. The song asks what kind of love can say, “I will carry this,” without pretending that carrying it will be easy.

The album itself helps explain why the spiritual current could hide in plain sight. The Library of Congress describes Purple Rain as a dense fusion of funk, synth-pop, soul, guitar-based rock, psychedelic color, and sensual lyricism. That mixture was not a failure to choose a lane. It was the lane. Prince made contradiction sound less like a problem to solve and more like a room large enough for a human being.

That matters because 1980s pop often treated spirituality as either a joke, a special effect, or a soft-focus chorus. Prince kept it messy. “1999” could dance through apocalypse. “Controversy” could put questions about God beside questions about identity. Later songs made the biblical references even harder to miss. A university-affiliated study of Prince’s faith journey describes a movement from the provocations of his early records toward a more explicit, disciplined religious practice. Not a straight line. More like a funk bass line: it circles, disappears, and then lands exactly where you forgot it was going.

I find that more honest than the usual conversion story. We like clean before-and-after narratives: wild artist becomes devout believer, end of film. Prince’s catalog resists that edit. The questions remain audible. What does the body owe the spirit? Can pleasure be examined without being despised? Can a person change without disowning every earlier self? His answers were not always comfortable, but they were alive.

What happened? An extraordinary 1980s pop career carried Christian language, apocalyptic imagery, gospel feeling, and sexual provocation in the same purple suitcase. What did it mean? Formation is rarely a clean genre. We are shaped by what we inherit, what we question, and what we keep trying to reconcile. What can we carry forward? Maybe this: when we examine a song, a habit, or a decade, we should listen for the question beneath the beat. Even the loudest music may be asking what kind of love can make us whole.

Kintsugi and the Next Careful Repair

Kintsugi-repaired ceramic mug beside broken pottery pieces on wooden table
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I broke a favorite mug last month. Not dramatically—no cinematic slow motion, just an elbow, a tile floor, and the small domestic silence that follows. I swept up the pieces and wondered whether the mug had become trash or a project.

Kintsugi, the Japanese craft of repairing broken ceramics with lacquer and powdered metal, offers a third category: not new, not ruined. Re-made. Japan’s National Crafts Museum describes it as a technique for repairing cracks and chips with lacquer and gold powder, rooted in preserving objects and passing them down. That is a sturdier idea than “everything happens for a reason.” Sometimes things simply break.

The technical detail matters. Traditional repairs use urushi, a tree-based lacquer that acts as an adhesive; the gold is not the glue, but the visible finish. The Smithsonian’s Folklife program notes that a traditional project can take up to three months, and that wet urushi can irritate skin even though it is harmless once dry. In other words, the pretty line on the finished bowl is the last chapter of a long, careful process. Gold gets the photograph. Patience does the work.

That is where the metaphor becomes useful—and where I want to handle it gently. A scholarly study of kintsugi warns us not to reduce the practice to the slogan that damage automatically makes an object more beautiful. The break still names a catastrophe. The repair names an amelioration. Both remain visible. Kintsugi is not pretending the crack was secretly good news.

This has obvious applications to money. A failed business, a layoff, a foolish purchase, or a season of debt can leave a seam in the household story. We do not need to gild the mistake or turn it into a personality. We can name what happened, repair what is repairable, and let the new habits show where the work was done: a smaller fixed expense, an honest conversation, an emergency fund built one transfer at a time.

It also has a spiritual edge, though not a shortcut. The repaired bowl is not valuable because it suffered. It is valuable because someone stayed with it. Someone cleaned the edges, fitted the pieces, waited for the lacquer to cure, and refused the easy conclusion that broken means finished. That feels close to the quiet work of formation: not self-invention, but faithful return.

So, what happened? A vessel broke. What did it mean? The break became part of its history, but not the whole of it. What can we carry forward? This week, choose one damaged place—financial, relational, or inward—and ask a less heroic question: what is the next careful repair?

The Examen and the Expense Report: A Better Way to End the Day

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I have two end-of-day rituals, at least in theory. One is spiritual: the examen, that quiet Ignatian habit of looking back over the day with God. The other is financial: opening the bank app and asking where the money went. One sounds holy. The other sounds like a small punishment invented by a spreadsheet.

But they have more in common than I expected. Both are practices of attention. Both ask us to stop guessing and look honestly at the day we actually lived—not the day we intended to live, or the budget we intended to keep.

The daily review is not a courtroom

The Jesuits describe the Ignatian Examen as a prayerful review: become aware of God’s presence, give thanks, notice what happened, and look toward tomorrow. The point is not to produce a perfect scorecard. It is to become more awake to where we were alive, distracted, generous, anxious, or quietly carried.

A financial review works best with the same posture. Start with the facts: the grocery run, the subscription renewal, the restaurant charge that seemed harmless until it joined its twelve little cousins. Then ask a gentler question than “What is wrong with me?” Ask: “What was I seeking?” Convenience? Rest? Belonging? A reward after a long day? The numbers are not a moral verdict. They are clues.

Attention turns into agency

The Consumer Financial Protection Bureau recommends tracking spending for at least two weeks, or even a month, so patterns become visible. That is a wonderfully unglamorous form of freedom. You cannot choose what to change until you can see what is happening.

This is where the spiritual and financial reviews meet. In the examen, I might notice that a certain conversation left me impatient. In the ledger, I might notice that the same kind of day ends with delivery food and late-night shopping. Neither observation is the whole story. Together, they might reveal a need for a better pause before I reach for the easiest relief.

And “better” does not have to mean dramatic. Investor.gov suggests keeping track of income and expenses and including savings in the picture. For tonight, that could mean writing down three purchases, one gratitude, and one small adjustment for tomorrow. No overhaul. No financial monasticism. Just a little light.

What happened, what it meant, what to carry forward

What happened? I spent the day making choices, some deliberate and some automatic. What did it mean? My attention—and my money—moved toward whatever felt urgent, comforting, or important in the moment. What can I carry forward? A five-minute review, done without self-contempt, can turn a blur into a pattern. A pattern can become a choice.

Tonight, before closing the banking app, try one question from each practice: “Where did I receive a gift today?” and “What did my spending say mattered?” The answers may not match perfectly. That is not failure. That is information—and information is a decent place to begin again.